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How to Say It ?

Posted by livin on May 10, 2010

I gave my 4th speech from the CC manual of Toastmasters today. Here’s a copy of the speech as-i-delivered-it. Hope you enjoy it:

Project 4: 1-2-3-LEAD: How to discover the leader in you

Imagine a short stout man clad in a white dhoti standing on a stage in front of hundreds of people & uttering something into the microphone. Or Recall a young guy in his late twenties appearing before an audience of wise men & women & hitting the gavel on a podium and saying “I call to order this meeting of Cisco Vani”. What word comes to your mind to describe that man clad in white dhoti or that young guy behind the podium? The word that flashes in my mind is LEADER.

In the next 6 minutes, I will give you practical tips on how to bring out the leader in you. Play with these tips, experiment, explore & discover the leader in you. And the way I am going to give you these tips is by expanding the acronym LEADER.

L stands for Listen:

A leader listens & listens aggressively, listens with respect in his heart. He Listens with an intent to understand & gives the speaker a feeling of being understood.

Next time you talk to somebody, observe yourself. Somebody is talking to you & what you are doing, just waiting for him to finish so that you can start speaking. Your urge to speak is so strong that sometimes you don’t even wait for the other person to finish & just interrupt in between and start speaking.

L also stands for Love:

John Maxwell said & I quote “True leaders touch a heart before they ask for a hand.” Unquote.

Connect emotionally with people. Put People first. One of the best learning I have had in Toastmasters is that People are the most important assets of any organization or club.  Create a bond of Love between the people you lead & among the people themselves & they will remember you forever.

E stands for Empathy:

To show empathy is to identify with another’s feelings.

Let’s say, it’s 7pm & you come home after a long day of work & you ring the bell. Nobody opens the door. You ring the bell again & again & after some time your mom or your wife opens the door & without asking anything, you attack them & say “Don’t you know I had a long & tiring day at office, can’t u just open the door at a single bell”.

Let’s switch positions & say you are taking a shower & your wife comes home at 7pm after a long & tiring day & rings the bell multiple times. Now you open the door and tell your wife, “Well, I was taking a shower, can’t you just wait for a couple of minutes.”

This is what empathy is all about. It is to emotionally put yourself in somebody else’s shoes. That can happen only when you first take off your own.

A stands for Authenticity:

“You can fool all the people some of the time, and some of the people all the time, but you cannot fool all the people all the time.” said Abraham Lincoln

You can pretend to listen, love, empathize, etc… but you can’t long last if you just pretend. You have to have the “Authenticity of Character” which ensures that these feelings, these traits are for real.

D stands for Discipline:

What I mean by Discipline is “Self leadership”. You lead yourself first & then the other people. A very practical example would be to be Punctual all the time. If you promise somebody to meet at 5pm, it means 5 pm & not 5 pm IST which is equivalent to 7pm.

D stands for Down to Earth:

According to me, “being down to earth” or “Humbleness” is the single biggest virtue of a great Leader. If you remember the movie “Lage Raho Munna Bhai”, Sanjay Dutt gives a simple but profound advice to the young girl going to meet her prospective groom “Just observe the way he talks to the server. If he call him with respect, he’s IN, if he calls him “ch ch” , he’s OUT”.

E stands for Ensure:

To explain ENSURE,I will take an example. We all have a great habit of sending emails. We think that we have sent an email & our job is done. No. You ought to follow up & persistently ENSURE that the job is indeed done.

In My Dictionary, R stands for 2 things

Relate: To be a leader, you need to network, network and network extensively. Every place, every time is an opportunity to network & who knows maybe you find your life partner through networking just like I met mine through my Toastmasters network.

Read to Lead: If you want to be a leader, read a lot. Expand the horizon of your knowledge by reading. Reading Romeo & Juliet by William Shakespeare would be like teleporting oneself to the 16th century & experiencing the eternal love. What a wonderful experience. !

To conclude, I would just say:

Leader in you is your Destiny, bringing it out is your Responsibility & to ensure that you bring it out, be Authentic & Disciplined, Listen with Empathy, Dream Big & still be Down to Earth. Read to Lead, Relate to people, empower them & Love them.

One Response to “How to Say It ?”

  1. Beautiful post.

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